Medium Lady Talks

Episode 106: Six Things Saving My Summer

Hello, hi! Today’s episode is our quarterly “five things list” but instead of five things I’ll share SIX things that are saving my summer. You're going to love today's episode if you find, like I do, that at this point of the season, you're rushing trying to cram as much life as possible into every minute of every day. I don’t know about you but I need permission to slow down! And this kind of list, my favourite foods, apps, clothes and yes even a few mindset tricks, is just the ticket to getting out of those limiting beliefs and feeling the relief that a positive reframe can bring. This episode I’ll share the six things saving my summer, and I even got to share what YOU told me was saving your summer this year as well!
 
Thoughts and Musings
Lately I’ve just been feeling as thought I’ve been cramming more and more into the same amount of time
I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to figure out a way to slow down
This leads me to consider my limiting believe that “I don’t have enough time” and “I can’t slow down”
What makes your list of things saving your summer? Anything that you want more of, or the things you think you “should” be doing this summer
There’s no limit to what makes the list! Don’t edit or censor yourself - whatever ends up on your list is unique and applicable to you. 
Some of my summer fatigue comes from making lots of decisions in every day and some of the things on my list help to minimize over thinking and decision fatigue
The SIX Things
Amazon bike shorts under my favourite summer dresses
Treats and meals on auto-pilot - removing as many decisions as possible when it comes to eating and treats 
The Finch Self Care App - here’s my friend code! J16CFE2T4A
ALL of my Friendships - if you’re my friend, thank you for saving my summer - and if we’re in a group chat you are a real one
Getting 10K steps a day - it’s annoying but this really works
A new exercise to reframe my mindset around Limiting Beliefs
When I went to my stories on Instagram to hear from you - listeners! Here’s what you shared:
A big family road trip adventure
Confidence to operate the new barbeque
Living each day like it’s the BEST DAY EVER
EVA Birkenstocks in every colour
Lizard time - purposefully going outside to sit in the sun
Air dried hair
Backyard pool
Planning lunch ideas ahead of time to avoid getting in a rut
Moving my workouts to first thing in the morning and having time to read during the day
Other Episodes referenced
Episode 104 Part Two Four Questions to Free Yourself From Summer Stress
Episode 103: Part One Four Questions to Free Yourself From Summer Stress
 
Connect with Erin:
Instagram: @medium.lady
Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com 
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Episode 105: Five things I Learned Behind the Scenes of My First Event

Hello, hi! Today’s episode is a behind the scenes reflection on the five things I learned from hosting my very first event. Typically all episodes that end on the 5 I do my “five things saving my life” series but this episode is a switch up, 5 things I learned putting together the “Chase the Good” Event which happened live and in person on June 8! The event was incredible and surpassed all of my expectations. This episode I’ll break down a little of what it FELT like to plan, prepare and deliver on a huge (and public) step outside of my comfort zone.
 
Thoughts and Musings
In the last year I’ve felt my ideas and curiosity growing about putting together a paid offer
After speaking on a panel at the Healed Hearts Empowered Voices, hosted by Jam Gamble, and felt awed by the impact of an in person event
Jam challenged me on Instagram to host an event - and because of this external accountability I felt like I could follow through or I “had” to follow through
Then people who saw Jam on Instagram started asking me about my ideas for the event: when you speak things out into existence you engage other people in participating in your vision
“When you speak things out loud, you call other people in, to help you achieve your dreams”
Once the ball got rolling and people were aware that I was planning the event it started to come up in conversation and that allowed me the opportunity to receive encouragement, and advice and ideas from other people. This became a supportive context where I could do something outside of my comfort zone while feeling encouraged. 
Chasing the Good for me is about gratitude and presence while balancing the experience of being a millennial woman and mother. Understanding that we were heavily conditioned to want a specific kind of life and now coming of age to recognize that we’re not sure what we REALLY want, and what we’ve been taught to believe we want. Chasing the Good is about how to go after MORE of what you truly want, and to filter out what you’ve been conditioned to think you want.
The event was an incredible success with a great group of women
I had to do a lot of inner work to prepare myself to step outside of my comfort zone and share a paid offer with my audience
 
Things I learned
Picking a date is hard: Eventually I had to realize that there was no perfect date for the audience (especially busy women and mothers) and I had to go with the choices that felt right and easy to me.
Food is hard to plan for and will eat up your event margins: I ordered 50% more food than I needed! But even though food is hard to plan for it’s absolutely essential to make people feel cared for during the event.
Events are not for making money - at least not your first event! And even though making money wasn’t the goal for me, I was still curious to see what would happen from hosting a paid event.
Gift Bags are not a big deal and they make people really happy. Even though I spent way too much time overthinking what to put in the gift bag, they are an essential part of any future events that I might have.
Hosting your event comes hand in hand with a lot of hard work on your mindset. Thankfully with guidance and coaching from Siobhan France I was able to work on understanding this mindset. I gained trust that my offers will find the people they are for and the people they aren’t for are still served by other kinds of content that I offer. While I’ll still have to work on this for future offers, the barrier to entry is way lower now that I’ve built trust from this first experience.
 
What will I do with this package of content? WHere can I take it and modify it for other audiences? I’m going to wait and see before I decide but I do want to do SOMETHING with the content. If you have any ideas within you to share content and passion with an audience - You CAN do it, of COURSE you can. 
Other Episodes referenced
The Happiness Challenge with Ellen Wong
Episode 74 How to Be a Human with a Voice with Jam Gamble
 
Connect with Erin:
Instagram: @medium.lady
Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com 
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[BONUS] Medium Lady Reads Ep. 22 The BIPOC Reading Challenge with guest host Alesia Galati

Hello, hi! We know that the MLT main feed always enjoys a crossover episode with my sister podcast Medium Lady Reads (affectionately known as MLR). Enjoy this episode with guest host Alesia Galati from @wereadsmut on Instagram!
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Hello, Hi, and welcome to Medium Lady Reads this is episode 22, “The BIPOC Alphabet Reading Challenge with guest Alesia Galati.”
In this episode, Jillian and Erin welcome their first guest host, Alesia Galati! They’re discussing Alesia’s BIPOC Alphabet Reading Challenge.
Jillian and Erin would love it if you shared what diverse authors you’re reading! Be sure to tag them on Instagram, Jillian is @jillianfindinghappy and Erin is @medium.lady, or you can tag the show @mediumladyreads!
In This Episode:
Jillian welcomes Alesia to the episode. Alesia is the owner and founder of Galati Media, as well as podcast host of two shows, “Successful Podcasting Unlocked” and “Listeners to Leads.” In addition to being a fellow book lover. She is the co-creator behind We Read Smut on Instagram, a bookish account dedicated to those who like their books ranging anywhere from sweet to scorching. 
You can find Alesia on Instagram here, and you can find @WeReadSmut on Instagram here.
Alesia introduces herself. 
Learn how Alesia was reintroduced into the reading world.
All three women check-in on how their reading is going.
It’s time to talk about the BIPOC Alphabet Challenge and you can learn all about it by clicking here.
Alesia kicks-off the recommendations in this episode - tune in to hear all 26 recommendations from diverse authors. 
The women share what's on their holds list.
Books In This Episode:
A: Almost Maybes by Anna P. 
A: Against the Loveless World by Susan Abulhawa
B: Bad Guy by Kenya Goree-Bell
C: Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese
D: Drop Dead Gorgeous by Lauren LandishE: Everything, Everything by Nicola Yoon
F: Firekeeper’s Daughter by Angeline Boulley
G: Getting Schooled by Christina C. Jones
H: Honey and Spice by Bolu Babalola
I: In Every Mirror She’s Black by Lola Akinmade Åkerström
J: Just for the Cameras by Viano Oniomoh
J: Let Us Descend by Jesmyn Ward
J: The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan
K: Kwarq by Nikki Clarke
K: Know My Name by Chanel Miller
K: The Kite Runner by Khalid Hosseini
L: Leave the World Behind by Ruman Alaam
M: Much Ado about Nada by Uzma Jallaludin
N: Nightcrawling by Leila Mottley
O: On the Come Up by Angie Thomas
P: Persepolis by Marjane Strajapi
Q: Queenie & the Krakens by Aleera Anaya Ceres
Q: Q&A by Vikas Swarup
Q: Quicksand by Nella Larsen
R: Role Playing by Cathy Yardley
S: ShadowLands Omega by Elizabeth Stephens
T: Transcendent Kingdom by Yaa Gyasi
V: V - Vampires of El Norte by Isabel Cañas
V: The Vanishing Half by Brit Bennett
V: Venco by Cherie Dimaline
W: We Were Dreamers by Simu Liu
X: Xeni by Rebekah Weatherspoon
X: Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia
X: XOXO by Axie Oh
Y: Yolk by Mary H.K. Choi
Z: Prize Money by Celeste Castro
Z: Anita de Monte Laughs Last by Xóchitl González
Z: Zora Books Her Happily Ever After by Taj McCoy

Episode 104: Four Questions to Manage Your Summer Stress Part 2

Hello, hi!
Welcome back to Medium Lady Talks! In this episode, I continues my deep dive into how to free yourself from summer stress with the final two of the four essential questions. Building on last year's insightful Episode 70, "My Life-Changing Hack for Having the Best Summer Ever," and the first part of this series in Episode 103, Erin provides practical advice to help listeners avoid becoming overwhelmed by summer's demands.
Episode Highlights:1. Name your Top Three Summer Experiences: Erin shares her top three personal summer experiences that she aims to enjoy. Emphasizing the importance of individual joy over imposed expectations, she encourages listeners to identify and prioritize their own key experiences for a fulfilling summer.   
2. How will you Find Rest this Summer?: Rest isn't just about sleep. Erin explores various forms of rest to recharge during the busy summer months.   
Erin's discussion revolves around the empowering quote, "In between stimulus and response there is a space. Within that space lies your ability to choose, and in that choice, you find your freedom." She encourages listeners to embrace freedom over perfectionism and make mindful choices to enhance their summer experience.
 Erin invites everyone to join her in-person workshop, "Chase the Good," on June 8th in Burlington, Ontario. This event will provide tools and strategies to help participants recognize and amplify the good in their lives. Tickets are available via the link!
Connect with Erin:
Instagram: @medium.lady
Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com 
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Episode 103: 4 Questions to Free Yourself from Summer Stress Part 1

Hello, hi!
Welcome back to another exciting episode of the podcast! Today, I'm revisiting the topic of summer stress, building on the success of last year's popular Episode 70, "My Life-Changing Hack for Having the Best Summer Ever." In Episode 103, I'll kick off the first of a two-part series dedicated to answering four crucial questions designed to help you avoid feeling reactive and overwhelmed by summer's endless tasks. So grab a cup of tea and your journal and get ready to say good bye to your summer stress.
In today's episode, we focus on the first two questions:1. What are you excited for this summer?2. What has you feeling exhausted this summer?
By addressing these questions, you can proactively manage your summer plans and emotions, ensuring a more relaxed and enjoyable season. This episode emphasizes the concept of choosing freedom over perfectionism when planning your summer activities.
Don't forget to stay tuned for Episode 104, airing on May 29th, where we'll tackle the remaining two questions:3. What are the top three experiences you'd like to have this summer?4. How will you rest this summer?
If you're local to Ontario, Canada I would love it if you join me at the Chase the Good workshop on June 8th, in Burlington Ontario. Tickets are still available! eThis in-person event is the perfect opportunity to connect, reflect, and embrace the best of what summer, motherhood and our every day lives have to offer.
Connect with Erin:
Instagram: @medium.lady
Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com 
Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify
Instagram: @mediumladyreads

[REPOST] Episode 70: My Life Changing Perspective on Having your ”Best Summer Ever”

[Repost] This episode originally aired in May of 2023. 
 
Hello, hi! Today's episode features four KEY questions to ask yourself in order to "hack" your "best summer ever" (those quotation marks are important context I promise). I'm going to walk through those four questions and share my own answers so you have a sense of what's on my mind as I shift my perspective from being overwhelmed by Summer before it even starts, to feeling ready and excited to welcome the season.
Inspiration for this Episode:
Episode 313 of The Lazy Genius Podcast with Kendra Adachi “ Ten Questions to Plan your Summer”
How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis
Other Episodes referenced:
Medium Lady Reads Playlist
Episode 50 Medium Effort Mindful Fun and My Origin Story
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Episode 102: Can You Change What You Want?

Hello, hi! Welcome to Episode 102 of Medium Lady Talks where we're unpacking a thought-provoking question: "Can you change what you want?" This episode is all about mindset, self-discovery, and the pursuit of happiness. And I'll talk all about what you can expect if you join my event, Chase the Good, on June 8th in Burlington Ontario.
Exploring Different Perspectives
Inspired by a quote from Oprah and my own personal "aha moment" in therapy, I'll explore different perspectives on this question. Some might firmly believe that their wants are fixed, while others acknowledge the fluidity of desires and the power to shape them consciously.
In the "No" Camp
In the "no" camp, we consider how societal norms and past expectations can influence what we think we're allowed to want. We unpack the pressure to conform to certain ideals and the discomfort that can arise from challenging those norms.
In the "Maybe" Camp
For those in the "maybe" camp, we discuss the possibility of evolving desires in response to changing circumstances or external influences. We reflect on the importance of exploring new interests and reevaluating our values as we grow.
In the "Yes" Camp 
And for those who confidently say "yes" to changing what they want, we celebrate the freedom and agency that comes with embracing this mindset. We encourage listeners to explore their desires authentically and pursue what brings them joy and fulfillment.
Chase the Good Medium Lady Community Event
Resources and links mentioned in this episode include the Chase the Good event happening on June 8th from 12:30 to 4 pm in Burlington, Ontario, Canada. This transformative event offers a space for self-discovery, connection, and personal growth. Get your tickets today and join us for an afternoon of insightful discussions, empowering exercises, and meaningful connections.
Remember, it's okay to question what you want and to embrace the journey of self-discovery. See you at Chase the Good!
And if you can't join us on June 8th join my Gratitude Coaching Waitlist: If you're ready to build the place in the world made for you and develop the skills to experience authentic  joy and gratitude, sign up for our gratitude coaching waitlist. This is a new service I’m offering, and will be a low/no cost option while we grow and learn from each other.
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Instagram: @medium.lady
Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com 
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Episode 101: Do You Have Something to Say? with guest Megan Hamilton

Hello hi! In Episode 101 of Medium Lady Talks, we explore a timely question, "Do You Have Something to Say?" with visibility expert Megan Hamilton from Ubu Skills. We delve into three distinct responses: "No," "Maybe," and "Yes," uncovering valuable insights for each listener who finds themselves answering the question.
For those who answer "No," Megan emphasizes the importance of evaluating the safety of using our voices and overcoming uncertainties about our opinions. She offers practical advice on how to identify and articulate what we want to express.
For the "Maybe" responders, Megan highlights the significance of recognizing the conditions and barriers we impose on speaking out. She stresses the importance of considering the audience and setting boundaries, which can help diminish sensitivity to others' reactions.
For the confident "Yes" responders, Megan provides guidance on choosing where to share our voices. She emphasizes the individual journey of discovering one's comfort zone and gradually expanding it by stepping out of familiarity.
Furthermore, Erin and Megan reflect on their positionality as het-cis white women, acknowledging the privilege it entails and the responsibility to amplify marginalized voices. They underscore the importance of using their platforms to create space for voices that have historically been silenced.
Join us as we navigate the complexities of finding, nurturing, and amplifying our voices in a diverse and dynamic world.
Connect with Megan- Website https://www.ubuskills.com/ - Megan's Instagram: @ubuskills
Key topics:
1) Evaluating Safety: Overcoming uncertainties and identifying what we want to express.2) Setting Boundaries: Developing resilience to others' reactions and choosing the right audience.3) Expanding Comfort Zones: Gradually stepping out of familiarity to amplify our voices.4) Acknowledging Privilege: Reflecting on positionality and using platforms to amplify marginalized voices.
 
Don't miss out on Megan's invaluable insights and reflections, and be sure to follow her on Instagram and LinkedIn for more inspiration.
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Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com 
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Episode 100: Can You Make a Big Career Change? with guest and photographer Pamela Chriton

Hello, hi! In this milestone 100th episode, I sit down with  Pamela Chriton, a photographer and owner of Ten West Photography Studio, to explore the central question: Can you make a big career change?
Pam's journey from teacher to successful entrepreneur offers valuable insights into navigating the uncertainties of career transitions. As we chat, Pam reflects on her evolution from the structured world of teaching to the dynamic realm of photography, sharing candidly about the challenges, doubts, and triumphs she encountered along the way.
Our conversation touches on the societal pressures to follow a predetermined path and the fear of stepping outside the norm. Pam's experience reminds us that while change can be daunting, it also holds the potential for profound growth and fulfillment.
Reflecting on her diverse teaching experiences, Pam emphasizes the importance of defining success on one's own terms and remaining open to new possibilities. She encourages listeners to embrace uncertainty, take calculated risks, and trust in their ability to navigate change.
As we explore Pam's journey, we uncover the essence of resilience, adaptability, and the pursuit of passion. Her story serves as a beacon of hope for anyone contemplating a career change, offering practical wisdom and encouragement to those embarking on their own transformative journeys.
So, whether you're feeling stuck in your current path or yearning for something more, Pam's insights remind us that it's never too late to pursue our dreams and create the lives we truly desire. Tune in to this inspiring episode and join us on the journey toward personal and professional fulfillment.
Connect with Pam:
- Instagram @pam_tenwestphotography
- Website: www.tenwestphotography.ca 
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Connect with Erin:
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Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com 
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Episode 99: Can A Personality Quiz Make Your Life Easier? with guest Tracy Stanger

Hello, hi! Welcome back to another episode of Medium Lady Talks, where we dive into all things self-discovery and personal growth. Today, we're tackling a question that's been buzzing around: "Can a personality quiz really make my life easier?" Let's unpack this together!
In this lively discussion, Erin and Tracy Stanger delve into the world of personality quizzes, exploring their potential benefits, limitations, and everything in between. They kick off by addressing the skepticism surrounding personality quizzes, examining common misconceptions and potential drawbacks. From there, they explore the diversity of quizzes available, from Buzzfeed fun to more structured assessments like DiSC, CliftonStrengths, and Four Tendencies. They also discuss the intriguing Enneagram Personality Test. Through personal anecdotes and case studies, they illustrate how self-awareness gained from these quizzes can transform lives and careers. Finally, they offer practical tips for leveraging this newfound self-awareness to enhance decision-making, communication, and overall well-being.
Resources and Links Mentioned:
DiSC Assessment
CliftonStrengths Assessment
Four Tendencies Framework by Gretchen Rubin
Enneagram Personality Test
Tracy Stanger's Website: tracystanger.com/learn-lbb 
Tracy Stanger on Instagram: @tracy.stanger
Conclusion: Ready to uncover your true self? Dive into the world of personality quizzes and embark on a journey of self-discovery. Whether you're a skeptic or a believer, there's something for everyone in this exploration of personality types and their impact on our lives. Let's unlock the mysteries of our personalities and embrace the power of self-awareness together!
Connect with Tracy:
Email: tracy@tracystanger.com
Instagram: @tracy.stanger
Website: tracystanger.com/learn-lbb
Connect with Erin:
Instagram: @medium.lady
Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com 
Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify
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